Overcoming Imposter Syndrome: Embrace Your Success and Let Go of Self-Doubt

"You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do." - Eleanor Roosevelt

Have you ever achieved success in some area of your life, yet found yourself worrying that others will discover you got there by luck rather than actual skill?  Do you secretly fear that you don’t really deserve your accomplishments?  If so, you’re not alone. This experience is known as Imposter Syndrome - a psychological pattern in which individuals doubt their accomplishments, skills or talents and have a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud,” despite evidence of their competence.

Imposter syndrome can manifest in various ways, such as doubting one’s qualifications after a job promotion, attributing academic success to luck rather than ability, or believing that creative achievements are flukes.  Entrepreneurs might fear their success is due to timing or connections rather than skill, while public speakers often worry they’ll be exposed as not truly knowledgeable. Even parents may feel inadequate, thinking they’re just “winging it” compared to others. Despite evidence of their competence, individuals with imposter syndrome fear being exposed as frauds in their respective roles.

Even highly accomplished individuals have struggled with imposter syndrome.  Maya Angelou once said, “I have written eleven books, but each time I think, ‘Uh-oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.”

Those experiencing imposter syndrome often overwork to prove themselves, struggle with perfectionism, and regularly compare themselves to others.  They find it difficult to enjoy success, which may lead to bad habits or hold them back from taking action.  Despite their achievements, they often feel miserable inside, potentially leading to career burnout or avoiding risks in their careers.

What Can You Do About It?

If you find yourself struggling with imposter syndrome, here are some steps you can take to address it:

• Examine the Facts: Look at your accomplishments as objectively as possible. Are you being too hard on yourself?  Are you calling yourself an imposter when you’re simply new at something?  Remember if you’re new at it, you’re a beginner.  Beginners make mistakes – that’s how learning happens.
• Accept Your Gifts, Talents & Skills: Take time to celebrate your successes. Recognize and accept the unique skills and talents you bring to the table.
• EFT Tapping: Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) can be particularly helpful for addressing imposter syndrome. EFT involves acknowledging the problem, accepting yourself as you are, and noticing the thoughts, feelings, and body sensations that arise.  Tapping while talking about your feelings can help you get to the root and let go of what might be getting in the way.  Check out my YouTube video on this topic.
• Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a friend who is struggling. Be gentle with yourself as you navigate these feelings.
• Seek Professional Help: If imposter syndrome is significantly impacting your life or career, consider working with a professional who specializes in these issues.

Let go of your self-doubt and move forward with self-love to share your gifts with the world!