How to Make New Friends as an Adult
Jul 31, 2024
“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” – Anaïs Nin
Why Friendships Matter
According to a survey by the Pew Research Center, 61% of U.S. adults believe that having close friends is extremely or very important for living a fulfilling life. While 53% report having 1-4 close friends, 8% say they have NO close friends. The number of close friends tends to decrease with age.
Quality friendships are linked to numerous health benefits, including improved physical health, increased longevity, and better mental health. These benefits highlight the importance of maintaining strong social connections throughout life. For more information, see Science of People: Why Friends are Important.
However, adults often find it challenging to make new friends. Busy schedules, prioritizing family relationships, shyness, and social anxiety are among the factors that complicate forming new connections.
Tips for Making New Friends
If you’re ready to meet new people and build connections, start here:
- Join Local Clubs or Groups: book clubs, hiking groups, sports teams
- Attend Community Events: Festivals and fairs, art walks/galleries, farmers’ markets
- Take Classes or Workshops: Cooking, dance, or language classes
- Volunteer: Community clean-ups, animal shelters, food banks/soup kitchens
- Join a Gym or Yoga Studio: Group fitness classes, special events & workshops
- Follow Your Hobbies: Craft workshops, board game cafes, trivia nights
- Search Digital Platforms: Find a local group on sites like Meetup.com
- Attend Networking Events: Chamber of Commerce, professional networking
- Engage in Local Culture: Community theaters, live music events & concerts
Reflect on your interests and explore where you might find others who share those passions. Make the most of your adventures with these tips:
Prepare Icebreaker Questions: For inspiration, check out these Conversation Starters from The Science of People
Set Your Intention: Know why you are going to this event and what you hope to accomplish (have fun, learn something, connect with one new person,...)
Be Open and Approachable: Show up friendly!
Make the First Move: Spark a conversation with your icebreaker question.
Exchange Contact Info: If you hit it off with someone, exchange contact info so you can arrange future meetups
Follow Up: Rather than saying “we should get coffee sometime,” schedule it right away
Be Consistent: Stick with these new adventures and nurture your new relationships
Start exploring and expand your circle of friends. Let’s make life better together! And if you’re feeling stressed before going to one of these events, try EFT Tapping to calm your nerves. Check out my video on Making New Friends.